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MFEO December 9, 2006

Posted by Sharath Rao in ideas, life.

How do non-spiritual people, who believe not in destiny, who have more respect for the human effort and random chance, who believe that religion emerged from morals rather than the other way around, who are in awe of nature of chance rather than reassured about a creator who tailors your future, how do they these people interpret and understand love ? Is there such thing as a made for each other (MFEO – the post title ) ? What place does love hold in their life ? Here is an example.

Quite simply floored by Ann Druyan’s reply (see video in previous post) to a question calling for scientists to accept nature of unknowns or in other words, to give up the search for a scientific explanation for religious beliefs in humanbeings (!), I did a few searches on just who Ann Druyan is afterall. I found a whole lot of quotations and views expressed here which I should recommend for a relaxed reading. But I pick out one which is unlike anything I have posted on this blog and the one that answers the question in the earlier paragraph.

When my husband died, because he was so famous and known for not being a believer, many people would come up to me-it still sometimes happens-and ask me if Carl changed at the end and converted to a belief in an afterlife. They also frequently ask me if I think I will see him again. Carl faced his death with unflagging courage and never sought refuge in illusions. The tragedy was that we knew we would never see each other again. I don’t ever expect to be reunited with Carl. But, the great thing is that when we were together, for nearly twenty years, we lived with a vivid appreciation of how brief and precious life is. We never trivialized the meaning of death by pretending it was anything other than a final parting. Every single moment that we were alive and we were together was miraculous-not miraculous in the sense of inexplicable or supernatural. We knew we were beneficiaries of chance. . . . That pure chance could be so generous and so kind. . . . That we could find each other, as Carl wrote so beautifully in Cosmos, you know, in the vastness of space and the immensity of time. . . . That we could be together for twenty years. That is something which sustains me and it’s much more meaningful. . . . The way he treated me and the way I treated him, the way we took care of each other and our family, while he lived. That is so much more important than the idea I will see him someday. I don’t think I’ll ever see Carl again. But I saw him. We saw each other. We found each other in the cosmos, and that was wonderful.

I am quite frankly impressed by women who hold agnostic/atheistic beliefs – not just because it appears they have had to cross higher barriers to get there, but also because I dont know of a single example in my life – friends and family or even distant acquaitances.



1. Aswin Cletus D'Souza - December 10, 2006


2. Sharath Rao - December 10, 2006

Yes, same reaction I had đŸ™‚

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